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Is pasta your favorite dish? Someone asked. I replied, “I like pasta, but as someone who needs to drop 10–15 pounds, I probably shouldn’t be eating it, let alone encouraging my parishioners to do so every Tuesday night!”

And yet, when we first discussed the idea, Pasta with Our Pastor sounded too good to pass up. It was catchy, yes, but more importantly, it reflected something deeper: our desire to build community (breaking bread), grow in faith (reflecting on God), and nurture our inner lives (exploring the soul).

So, for six Tuesday evenings this spring, we welcomed dozens of parishioners to St. Sarkis Church for delicious home-cooked meals—often lovingly prepared by Yn. Annie and I, and other parishioners who either offered help or cooked the entire meal, followed by meaningful conversations that bridged Armenian Christian spirituality with insights from clinical psychology.

We began with a discussion on identity and well-being, grounding ourselves in Christian anthropology and the healing that comes from knowing we are beloved children of God. From there, we explored the emotional journey of healing and growth, the presence of the Holy Spirit in mental health, and the profound intersection of anxiety, trust, and faith. We tackled tough topics—love, marriage, forgiveness, and relationships—always returning to the central truth that God’s love is our anchor. Our final session focused on purpose, calling, and flourishing, challenging us to reframe our stories in light of God’s grace and to pursue theosis—the call to become more like Christ.

Here’s what some participants shared anonymously:

  • “Session 4: Anxiety, Fear & Trusting God stood out—it was the first time I connected anxiety with spirituality.”

  • “Would love to see more programs like this, especially something for couples.”

  • “This series taught me to reflect on my challenges and fragility, and to find strength through faith.”

  • “I’m grateful to Der Hayr for this program. I hope it continues with sequels, new ideas, and more opportunities for connection between us, parishioners, and our beloved pastor.”

  • “After 50+ years of marriage, new reflections on partnership still bring insight. We’re lucky to have a pastor who explains complex emotional and developmental issues so clearly, and connects them to theology in practical ways.”

  • “Love the enthusiasm you bring. The jokes in your talks are a bonus. Keep it up!”

Participants also offered helpful suggestions for future improvement, reminding us that this was just the beginning.

I was privileged to lead our parish through this unique journey. What began as a simple idea became something deeply meaningful and transformative. Pasta with Our Pastor was more than a lecture series; it was a true fellowship.

I’m deeply grateful to everyone who participated, those who cooked and served, and our generous sponsors who made each evening possible. As we look ahead, I pray we continue creating sacred spaces like this, where faith meets life and God’s grace nourishes both body and soul.